Why is it so hard?

Why is it so hard to move on from a love that’s no more, she asks? You know, I ask myself this question every time I get it. To be honest, I really don’t know. I guess it’s because we feel so strongly for the person. We wake up every morning knowing that seeing them would make the rest of your day perfect. Realizing that they were the only person we could ever dream of being with, and even though we had our fights and arguments, we still kept hoping that one day it would all go away, it hurts. I think it’s hard because we can’t come to terms with the fact that we loved them so much and it ended so abruptly. What I can say is that, breaking up is a grieving process. You will go in and out of, as well as back and forth on, a number of stages, from denial, to anger, to acceptance, and grief.

Everyone’s grieving process is different, but in the end it is painful. It takes time for it to become more bearable, but it passes. One day it actually becomes workable and then one day it just isn’t an issue anymore. Don’t try to heal yourself by rushing into a relationship, you need to give yourself time to recover completely. It is very easy to fall for a person who offers a shoulder to cry on during our troubled times. This is the mistake most people do and they end up in a relationship, which eventually ends up the same. Moving on after a break up is definitely not easy, but you can at least make sincere attempts towards it. If you take it as a challenge and face your life positively, you’ll emerge a stronger person than you were before,